The Fear Factor? 

I am often baffled at why I have been so afraid to face my issues so I can live? For example, when I was 9 or 10 years old, I almost drowned in the local pool. After that I never got into a pool to swim again, I stayed on the shallow end. At age 17 years old, I was at church with my family on an Icey night. I came out of church to warm the car and bring the car around for my father, when I ran into one of the parishioners’ parked cars. Immediately I walked from church home almost 2 miles afraid of what my father would say.  

Not realizing the repercussions that I would face for not standing there facing my fear. These exact moments actually assisted in building a path of running from what scares me. Even though there was nothing to be afraid of at all.


 What is Fear? Fear by definition: 

1 a: an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger. b (1): an instance of this emotion. (2): a state marked by this emotion. 2: anxious concern: solicitude. 3: profound reverence and awe especially toward God. (Merriam Dictionary 

Valeri Priester (A Helper for Female Life Coaches) 

 “If your fears are stopping you from taking advantage of the new opportunities in your life, then it’s time to regain control of your life and disallow your fears from paralyzing you. After all, you can’t live in a bubble! It’s time to start living your life instead of watching life pass you by.  “ 

How many of us have refused to pursue our passion, dreams or anything connected directly to what we want? Can you recall being petrified by our fears to the point that we avoid anyone or anything connected to that direction. Most of the time believing superstitious fables, our thoughts, lack of trust, tales from friends or family, instead of using the fear as fuel to face that which we are afraid to confront. Besides what is there to lose? Think about a time when you wanted to try a new hobby, engage in a conversation with someone that you really admired, buy yourself something you would not normally wear, a trip that you want to take, a new business you want to create, a place you want to visit, and what about revisiting some ideas that you desired to try? 

 Who wants to miss dreams, adventure, opportunities, momentous times or live without truly exploring all of who you are? Especially if living this way has not brought forth fruit, happiness, produced anything worth talking about or sharing with others that may bring joy.  

Make this a Goal today, before the end of the year that you will face one or two fears. Take time, give each one the attention it deserves for you to overcome it. Challenge yourself to go into the unknown, I am going to learn to swim, face that man I love, create a new idea to build generational wealth, tackle my financial issues, overcome my fear and become more knowledgeable of someone else’s culture. This will give me some fresh new eye and flavor in how I live and view life. What are some of the fears you could Face?

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